Games People Play: A Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis was a quick read, but it will take more readings and plenty of thought to fully digest. Written in 1963, it's a classic of psychoanalytic writing; in it,
Eric Berne inaugurated his theory of
transactional analysis.
I didn't know any of that going in. I was just interested in this idea that people communicate on different levels at the same time, sometimes with subconscious ulterior motives.
Berne starts out by explaining transactional analysis: the Parent–Adult–Child model, strokes, various types of transactions, and the definitions of “game,” “pastime,” “procedure,” and “activity.” I'm still not entirely clear on those distinctions.
Games People Play is considered a layman's book, but I think many parts of it aren't accessible to someone without psychiatric training; it isn't pop psychology in the sense we know today.
The fun part of the book is the “thesaurus of games,” some of which are more recognizable than others. The names themselves sometimes evoke that recognition: Kick Me; Now I've Got You, You Son of a Bitch; If It Weren't for You; Let's You and Him Fight; I'm Only Trying to Help You. Included in the analysis of each game is an especially helpful antithesis—a way to break out of the game. The Freudian “dynamics” given for each game were mostly a mystery to me, though.
I was struck more than once in the course of reading by the difference forty years has made in our social environment. From this distance, 1963 doesn't look much different from 1903. I found the book's treatment of homosexuality… odd. (“One of the most unfortunate and acute forms of Third-Degree ‘Rapo’ occurs relatively frequently between homosexual strangers, who in a matter of an hour or so may bring the game to a point of homicide.” Maybe that's a subculture I've just never heard of?) Berne's games are set in a world where ladies lunch with their “lady friends,” do not talk about sports or cars, and cry, “Oh my, I have a run in my stocking!” I'm sure Berne's analysis is just as valid today as it was then, but it would be easier to recognize examples set in today's world.